Estranged family friend asks woman to leave her mother's funeral and find a t-shirt she'd left at their home 5 years ago: ‘We never talked to her again’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Nov 30, 2025 7:00 AM EST

Normally, when you attend the funeral of a loved one, you can barely keep your focus on anything. Your brain is firing things off left and right, and you don't know what to think or how to get around yourself. Why? There is no uneven ground right now, at least, in the emotional sense. All you know is that you'd happily forfeit all worldly possessions to keep them here with you.

Others, well… They are focused on their worldly possessions and how to get them back from the deceased. What do you do if the deceased is your mother, and the entitled funeral guest is her estranged friend? Tell her to get the heck out of there.

When this woman loses her mother, a funeral follows. The estranged friend warms up to her during the funeral proceedings, bonding over old stories and moments that have passed. Then, she insists that the woman leave the funeral and find a shirt that she had left with her mother five years earlier. Yes, you heard that correctly.

There are many things to do in a moment like this, but the woman's father did what we all wished we could do ourselves: Toss it out. Scroll below to read the entire story.

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    "She asked me to leave my mother’s funeral to find a t-shirt she hadn’t seen in five years."

    My mom had a "friend" for years who as actually just more like an annoying acquaintance that inserted herself into our lives constantly.
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    One day, she asked my mom to come help her wallpaper her kitchen. My mom went over to help but wound up getting paste or something spilled on her.
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    To be honest, I don't even remember the details completely. All I know is this woman found an old ratty tshirt of her own with holes in it for my mom to wear home.
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    Somehow the tshirt never wound up being returned. I think my mom forgot to return it which, if so, bad on her..
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    Somehow the tshirt never wound up being returned. I think my mom forgot to return it which, if so, bad on her..
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    but five years passed and nobody ever mentioned the tshirt again. Until five years later. My mom died suddenly.
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    We held a funeral and this woman showed up. While we were talking, she brought up the
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    story about the wallpaper mess and was laughing about what a fun day it was.
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    Then she suddenly remembered she'd loaned mom a tshirt and never got it back. She couldn't even remember what it looked like.
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    All she knew was that her initials would be written on the tag because she used a laundry service and that was required.
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    She asked me to leave the funeral and go home to find it. I told her I would check for it the next day.
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    She said "it's been five years, don't you think that's long enough?" My dad wound up having some words with her and she left.
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    She said "it's been five years, don't you think that's long enough?" My dad wound up having some words with her and she left.
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    The next day he found the old ratty tshirt and tossed it out the car window into her front yard as he drove by.
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    We never talked to her again.
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    aquainst1 I bet tossing it out at her house felt SO good! She had a level of entitlement that's just, OMG-worthy.
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    mela_99 What the actual fuck. I hope your dad used that shirt to blow his nose and wipe the toilet seat before.
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    Imagine forgetting about a shirt for five years and asking someone to leave their mother's funeral to find it. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you tore her a new one all over the place.
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    Lopsided_Window_6603 Honestly the way some folks can turn a funeral into a lost-and-found moment is just wild, like girl this isnt a treasure hunt. Your dad tossing that shirt back like a dramatic movie ending kinda made the whole story legendary.
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    Useless890 She didn't even remember what it looked like, but you were supposed to go look for it? You should have given her an old cleaning rag and told her that since it's been so long, you thought she didn't want it back, so you cut it up for rags.
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